Happy New Year one and all!
Welcome to the first Slow Swimmers and Fried Eggs post of 2018! Wow, what a difference a year makes. I never thought I’d be writing a blog, living in a beautiful house or be facing redundancy this time last year, but here I am and all those things are currently a reality!
I have the added pleasure this week of not only welcoming in another year but also gaining a year myself as I have a New Year birthday, so I always kill two birds with one stone in January. Some years this is easier to do than others but this year…I’ve decided I’m embracing it!
This time last year, I was in a bad place emotionally. I had just suffered my first miscarriage after a long-awaited IVF transfer and was devastated and in pure disbelief that this could happen. How could life be so cruel as to make me wait 3 years to get pregnant only to take it away a few weeks later. I couldn’t bear contemplating yet another birthday without a pregnancy and the added insult of being another year older which in the fertility world can be the difference between “possible” and “impossible”.
Life is full of ironies – I have a condition that makes it hard for me to get pregnant but getting pregnant could cure it….infertile women are plagued by messages to get pregnant as early as possible but the longer the infertility lasts, the older they get and the harder it becomes.
My husband and family helped me through my birthday last year but this year, even though I’m still facing some pretty tough times, I’m feeling so much stronger and so much more reassured. I was trying to work out why that is today and I think the reality is that I feel more acceptance and more support this year than I ever have before on this journey.
Things I’m focusing on this birthday:
Yes! Having fun is something I forget to do sometimes especially during IVF months and Lee is really good at reminding me of its importance. Fun doesn’t have to be extravagant or flamboyant – just pulling stupid faces or watching a silly film, dancing around the kitchen can be enough to get the endorphins flowing!
Birthdays will come and go and leave their mark depending on how you much emphasis you put on them. We can all choose how we react to birthdays – what we can’t control is the fact that they will come around at the same time every year!
Do you have a birthday coming up that you’re struggling to deal with? How are you feeling about the start of another New Year? Wherever you are on your fertility journey, I’d love to hear from you!
Speak soon
Julia x
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