Category: Slow Swimmers & Fried Eggs

Cheers, dear readers, Do you remember what it feels like be an outsider? To not quite fit in? To be the minority? To feel invisible, and not seen, heard, or perhaps valued as an equal? There are SO many reasons that each of us experiences these emotions, these moments of awkwardness and anxiety. Whether it’s… Continue reading The Joy of Acceptance & the Miracle of Reaching Out

I’m not gonna lie. This week started out a little rough. Sunday was Father’s Day here in the US, and that can be a tough time to be an infertile not-father. It’s easy to fall into depression, or resentment, or at least an understandable, healthy sadness. And lord knows it’s easy to feel sorry for… Continue reading Being Infertile on Father’s Day

Hi everybody! Eric here again with my first post of the new year, and it’s great to be back!   First, let me say a huuuuuge thank you to Julia, whose fresh voice, vulnerability and candor (not to mention wonderful writing) have been such a great injection of energy here at SS&FE. I am so… Continue reading Childless men don’t raise eyebrows, but childless women do. That’s wrong on a lot of levels.

I couldn’t write about anything else today. The worst imaginable happened to my friend this week, as her husband past away very suddenly leaving a tidal wave of confusion and pain.   The ripples of shock spread very far to acquaintances and people who’ve not been in touch for years. I’ve never experienced significant loss… Continue reading Understanding loss in infertility

Cheers, dear readers, As we each walk our own infertility journey, there are many moments that can bring you to your knees. Miscarriage, difficult and frightening surgeries and procedures, even just month after month of negative pregnancy tests, dashing your hopes and dreams of the family you always thought that you would have. These experiences… Continue reading Don’t stifle grief …

Soooo… If this post takes a minute to get where it’s going, you’ll have to forgive me. I’m in the final stages of a massive tryptophan-and-carbs hangover from Thanksgiving. And thanks to the power of tradition and memory, as Cathy reminded me, a turkey is required. “But sweetie,” I cautiously proposed as the guy who… Continue reading Infertility, Tradition and Gratitude. Oh, and Turkey, a LOT of Turkey…

  As the year starts to wind down, the festivities of the holiday season take hold. This period is full of excitement and beautiful things to celebrate. Yet, it can be a stressful and sad time too. Although you experience the longing for motherhood throughout the year, something about the holiday period can intensify that… Continue reading Subfertility and Setting Boundaries over the Holiday Period

The end of the year is upon us and December tends to be a month that signifies closing one chapter of our lives and making room for a new one to begin. For some of us who are trying to conceive though, this is a period of mixed feelings. On one hand, you feel excited… Continue reading Combating the End-of-Year-Infertility Blues

Hello! I thought I’d share a bit more about my experience of Endometriosis with this post, as it’s such a common condition (I think the stats are around 10% of women in US have it!) and so often misdiagnosed.   Ps. The title of the post is inspired by so many of the responses I… Continue reading Endo…what?? How Endometriosis could be affecting your fertility

Cheers, dear readers,   We’ve all done it – woken up on the wrong side of the bed with toxic dis-empowering thoughts right out of the gate. We shoot ourselves in the foot before we’ve even gone for our first bathroom break.   For example, how often do you think these two thoughts first thing… Continue reading Turn Toxic Thoughts into Empowering Thoughts during the Infertility Journey